Monday, July 28, 2014

There is a force that sometimes protects you

Do you believe that sometimes in certain moments in your life you have an angel or a force that protects you from being harm?

I do believe in it. This is why.

Some years ago when my younger son was like 4 years old, we were in a playground. He was playing when he decided he will go to the slide. He liked slides a lot. But he liked to play in it in not the conventional way. He liked to climb the slide thru the slide not thru the stairs.
I was near him, like 5 foot or so, seating on a bench. For one moment, I look down to pick something from the grass; suddenly I heard a loud noise. He fell from the slide. He fell from a height of 8 to 9 feet, approximately.  I ran and picked him up. He was conscious but he was like Jell-O. His body felt like it had no bones. It felt very weak, flaccid.
We took him to the hospital. In there, he had x rays and some other stuff. All the studies came back negative. My son didn't have even a scratch. He was perfect as if nothing had happened.

I believe there was something, an angel a force (if you want to call it like that) that protected him from that fall. From the height from which he fell was to have, at least, some broken bones and scratches.
For me, my son fell in the arms of someone that cushioned his fall.

Last November my son (the same one) and I were driving back home from West Palm, Florida. It was raining and there was a lot of traffic and accidents in the interstate. The road was very wet. I tried to change lanes but I didn't notice there was a car right besides mine. I turned the wheel and all of the sudden the car started spinning. We spin for maybe a minute or two. As we were spinning, I was waiting for some car to hit us. But it didn't happen. When we stop spinning, the car was facing the other cars, it was against traffic. I really don't know how any of the cars that were driving near mine didn't hit us.

I think it was the same angel or force that protected us. It has to be.
My son and I had another chance to live.

I do believe in this and I believe it was my son's angel that helped in both cases.

What do you think?

Take care,

Monday, July 21, 2014

Profession vs work

Are you like me? You have a profession but you work on something else? 
I know there are a lot of people that are like me, like us.

I am a Nationally Certified Counselor with a Master in School Counseling and a certification on Distance Counseling and I am working as an Educational Representative for a publishing house.
Sadly, I haven't found a job in my profession. I've been in interviews but no job afterwards because I don't have the necessary experience. 
Ok, give me my first job in the counseling field so I can get that experience you are talking about.
You know, all who started working for the first time did not have the experience. They all needed that first job to start building it.

As I said, I am a counselor but my job is as an educational representative. I promote and sell Spanish books and textbooks in Florida. Never would I think that I'll be on the sales campus. This is my first experience in this field. Someone just trusts me and believes in me even though I didn't have the experience of working as a sales person before. 
It has been really difficult to learn how to sell. I am not build for that. 
Every time I go to a school to offer some books I get frustrate. There I am in a school setting but not as a counselor. 
I have to tell you it's been really hard.
Some will say: "At least you have a job". And I know they are right but I want my counseling job. I prepared on the field to get the job. I have a loan; I studied for 3 years a master, and passed the necessary exams in order to be a counselor.

Don't get me wrong, I am grateful I have this job but... I want my counseling one.

Can you relate with this? Let me know

Sunday, July 13, 2014

Love or obsession

Love. What is love? What is that thing that so many singers sing about and so many poets write about. That thing that make you have "butterflies" in your stomach or make stupid things for the love one. That thing that makes a mother or a father feel so proud of their children or a friend feel so "tune" with a friend.
If we look for a definition we can find that love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A profoundly affection for another person...but how profoundly it can be to become an obsession? It's there a such thing like too much love?
There are different kinds of love. There is the love one has for a mother or a father; the love for a son or a daughter;the love for a friend; the love for a lover, a companion; a love for a husband or wife... 
Sure love is beautiful. And don't take my wrong, I love and I am being loved. But I also noticed that sometimes there is too much love or this love is out of proportion.

How much love is an obsession?
Well I have two reasons  that make me believe that love, sometimes, can become an obsession.

For example, can a mother be obsessed with her child? In my opinion, yes. A mother can "love" so much her child that she can alienate him/her. She can make him (I am using him but it can be her too) believe what she can. She can make him think what she wants him to think. 
If you have a hard time believing it just hear the song Mother by Pink Floyd
Some of the lyric goes like this:  Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
                                             Mama's gonna make all of your
                                                Nightmares come true
                                             Mama's gonna put all of her fears into you
                                                Mama's gonna keep you right here
                                             Under her wing
                                                she won't let you fly but she might let you sing
                                             Mama will keep baby cosy and warm...

                                          ...Mother do think she's good enough for me
                                                 Mother do think she's dangerous to me
                                             Mother will she tear your little boy apart
                                                 Oooh aah, mother will she break my heart
                                             Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
                                                  Mama's gonna check out all your girl friends for you
                                             Mama won't let anyone dirty get through
                                                  Mama's gonna wait up till you get in
                                             Mama will always find out where
                                                  You've been
                                              Mamma's gonna keep baby healthy and clean
                                                  Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe
                                              You'll always be a baby to me  

Sure can a mother be like that. My experience told me so.

In another type of love, man and woman. How much love is an obsession? 
-"I love you"- so he said. -"You are my everything" - he continued.
My everything?? Do you really want to be the everything of someone? Sure it sounds beautiful and will pop up your ego but... 
Just be careful. Love can become "too much love", an obsession and could suffocate you.
Just ask some of the women that have been in an abusive relationship...

In Spanish there is a saying "Hay amores que matan". In English it will be "There are loves that kills".

LOVE and do it with all your heart just be careful with the kind of love that may kill you.