Sunday, July 13, 2014
Love or obsession
Love. What is love? What is that thing that so many singers sing about and so many poets write about. That thing that make you have "butterflies" in your stomach or make stupid things for the love one. That thing that makes a mother or a father feel so proud of their children or a friend feel so "tune" with a friend.
If we look for a definition we can find that love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. A profoundly affection for another person...but how profoundly it can be to become an obsession? It's there a such thing like too much love?
There are different kinds of love. There is the love one has for a mother or a father; the love for a son or a daughter;the love for a friend; the love for a lover, a companion; a love for a husband or wife...
Sure love is beautiful. And don't take my wrong, I love and I am being loved. But I also noticed that sometimes there is too much love or this love is out of proportion.
How much love is an obsession?
Well I have two reasons that make me believe that love, sometimes, can become an obsession.
For example, can a mother be obsessed with her child? In my opinion, yes. A mother can "love" so much her child that she can alienate him/her. She can make him (I am using him but it can be her too) believe what she can. She can make him think what she wants him to think.
If you have a hard time believing it just hear the song Mother by Pink Floyd
Some of the lyric goes like this: Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
Mama's gonna make all of your
Nightmares come true
Mama's gonna put all of her fears into you
Mama's gonna keep you right here
Under her wing
she won't let you fly but she might let you sing
Mama will keep baby cosy and warm...
...Mother do think she's good enough for me
Mother do think she's dangerous to me
Mother will she tear your little boy apart
Oooh aah, mother will she break my heart
Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
Mama's gonna check out all your girl friends for you
Mama won't let anyone dirty get through
Mama's gonna wait up till you get in
Mama will always find out where
Mamma's gonna keep baby healthy and clean
Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe
You'll always be a baby to me
Sure can a mother be like that. My experience told me so.
In another type of love, man and woman. How much love is an obsession?
-"I love you"- so he said. -"You are my everything" - he continued.
My everything?? Do you really want to be the everything of someone? Sure it sounds beautiful and will pop up your ego but...
Just be careful. Love can become "too much love", an obsession and could suffocate you.
Just ask some of the women that have been in an abusive relationship...
In Spanish there is a saying "Hay amores que matan". In English it will be "There are loves that kills".
LOVE and do it with all your heart just be careful with the kind of love that may kill you.