Tuesday, November 14, 2017

That kind of love (2) 

A love that doesn’t make excuses,
 that’s strong to fight,
 that not preconceives,
 that’s calm,
 which forgot it was wounded in war,
 that brings peace,
that doesn't move away after getting closer, 
 that doesn’t compare,
 that makes time, 
ready to sometimes don’t understand why...
                                  that kind of love. 
                                                       Tere Rodriguez-Nora

Monday, November 6, 2017

An abusive relationship experience...

Abusive relationships happen every day, every hour, and to anyone. It doesn’t matter where you live, your social status, religion, or education. It’s out there and real. It’s more real than you know. You might have a friend who is involved in this type of relationship and you don't even now.

I was part of one myself. I was in an abusive relationship for way too much time. Yelling, insults (like fat, dumb, sexual incompetent, ugly breasts, inept), always making me feel guilty, jealous about everyone (including my two sons), trying to make me feel less were part of my everyday life.
I was used to it. I was "happy". That's all I knew. I was so in love that I didn't notice that I was abused. I didn't care about what my sister, my friends, anyone told me; I always made an excuse excusing him. Nothing wrong was going on.

It had been 5 years since I decided I was done with my relationship. It sure took me a lot of time to be done but is better late than never. Right?
I have invested too many years of my life in that relationship.
The day I was done with it, it was when I felt how heavy was the load I was carrying when I was no longer feeling that weight.

After I finished my relationship; I took a profound look at my interior self, at what I have lived and what was going to be my new life. Part of my introspection included trying to remember my life of the past twenty-something years. Weirdly, it seems that I have erased from my mind most of the things that happened to me in this relationship, both good and bad. I erased experiences when he abused me but I also erased experiences that were about Christmas, birthdays, family get together and events, among others. 
I'm pretty sure I did it in a way to protect myself. I am a counselor, I know that our mind is powerful and can do strange things to help you cope with different situations.

The decisions I took after my separation were hard to understand for some people (including one of my sons) but they were necessary. One of them was that I needed to get as far away as I could from my ex. His love was an obsessive one so I needed to place a lot of distance between us. So, I did, I moved to Florida to start a new life. 

I was immensely hurt. He tore my self-esteem apart. A lot of the insults he said to me stayed with me for a long, long time. I believed they were true. Little by little I began to heal and I began to be secure about myself and of the great woman I am.

From every situation and experience, we learned something and this wasn't an exception. I learned that it wasn't me who was wrong, it was him. I learned that a love relationship should have more tears of joy than of sadness. I learned that life always offers second chances. I learned that love shouldn't hurt if it hurts is not love. I learned that you can love again even if you were hurt. I learned that you can always create new memories. Most of all, I learned and I know that I am a smart, creative, caring, funny, lovable, extraordinary woman who is capable of loving and respect a man and most of all deserve a relationship fund on respect, caring, happiness, and love.

If you have had the same experience as mine; belief in yourself, believe in second chances, and believe that you are capable to have a magnificent relationship with someone who will love and respect you.

Take care, Tere

Sunday, November 5, 2017

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Saturday, October 7, 2017

Thank you!! 

Boquerón PR

Thank you sometimes is such a small way to say how much you appreciate someone for doing something for you or for the one you love. This time it's my way to tell you how much it means to me all the kindness you all have shown towards me, my loved ones in Puerto Rico and all the people on the island.
Thank you all for helping my fellow brothers and sisters in my beautiful island...
Thank you for that dollar you donate, for all the provisions you dropped at the relief event, for that package of water you bought for them, for every time you share a post, for all those prayers you said, for reaching out to me asking if my family and loved ones were well.
I firmly believe that the good ones are more than the bad ones and watching in the news and in social media, all this response towards Puerto Rico has confirmed it.

Once again, thank you! ¡Gracias! Many blessings!!  ❤️
Take care, Tere
Sunset in Puerto Rico

Sunday, September 17, 2017

Introspection of my 48 years of living 

My birthday is this week. I'm turning 48 years old, yes, only two more and I'm 50.

Scared? Nah! I'm just starting to live.

But being near 50 has made me introspected about my life.

The following is what I concluded about what I have learned and gained in my 48 years of living:
  • Difficult times will come but they don't last a lifetime 
  • Stay positive, even when what you are going through is hard as hell. 
  • Don't regret your mistakes because from all of them you have learned something 
  • Know that with every sunrise comes a brand new day. 
  • Treat yourself as a priority. 
  • Don't be the spare of anyone, be their priority. They are the ones who lose if they don't treat you as one. 
  • Show love, gratitude 
  • Life is not easy. It's like a roller coaster, but it's the kind that you don't want to stop riding. 
  • Show the ones that you love that you care, not only with words but especially with actions. 
  • Love your children with all your heart but know that, eventually, they will have to live their life by themselves and that you shouldn't try to live their lives through yours. They need to fail, they need to cry, and they need to have troubles in order to grow, to learn, and to be better persons.
  • Be patient, it's a great virtue. 
  • Learn as much you can. It doesn't matter if you do it by going to schools, colleges, or by yourself as long as you do it. 
  • Share your life with your loved ones and tell and demonstrate your love for them always. 
  • Don't spend too much time worrying, that time will never come back. 
  • Wear a smile every day. 
  • Honesty takes you a long way. 
  • Know that life is fragile; try to live it as better as you can. 
  • Embrace your passion. Passion is what's going to make your life roll. 
  • Don't mind what others think about you, it's your life, not theirs. 
  • Be humble 
  • Cherish your friends. They are the family that you choose. I sure have good ones and I love and am grateful for them every day. 
  • Talk and visit your parents often, they need you as much as you needed them. 
  • Believe that you are beautiful in every stage of your life. 
  • Work and be proud of what you do but don't forget to work for a living and not living for work. 
  • Go out, have fun 
  • Be caring and warm to others 
  • Protect the environment. This magnificent place called Earth is the only home we have.
  • Listen to music and dance anytime and in any place, you feel like it. 
  • Know that you will fall and have failures but also that you will raise up again and what have you learned from it will make you stronger. 
  • Don't let anyone mistreat you, offend you with words or emotionally, no one that does this to you deserve your love and respect 
  • Fall in love again even if you have been hurt before. 
  • Laugh every day, do it hard and loud. 
  • Know that the love for you is the greatest kind of love. Love yourself with all your strengths but especially with all your weaknesses. You can't love anyone if you don't love yourself first. Embrace yourself! 
  • Be grateful for a sunny or a rainy day, for the singing of the birds, because someone opened a door for you, for the bad and the good days, for a day at the beach, for a tasty piece of cake, because things are not going as you expected, for reading a good book or writing a great story, for a tight hug, for tears of sadness, for times with friends and family, time with your love, for the laughter of your kids, for a sensual kiss, because someone holds your hand...
  • Be grateful every day because you are alive! 
Happy birthday to me!

Take care, Tere

Thursday, September 14, 2017

Which is the right one for you?...That's the one!

  The one who's happy to wake up next to you every morning
The one that makes you laugh hysterically
The one that gets excited every time he sees you
The one that makes you cry of happiness not of sorrow
        The one that with every kiss is telling you that you are right for him
          The one that always makes time for you

The one that shows you with a smile that 
                 he's happy to see you
The one that gives you those butterflies feeling
              every time he messaged you
The one that shows how he feels with actions, 
                     not with words
The one that with every hug is letting you know
                    that you’re home
The one that misses being around you
The one that doesn't have to say I love you because 
           you feel it when he cares for you
That's the ONE!
                                           Tere Rodriguez-Nora


Tuesday, September 12, 2017

A collection of my romantic quotes

Here are a some of the romantic quotes I have written.

Enjoy them...

Hope you have enjoyed them. Let me know what you think!!

Take care, Tere

Saturday, September 9, 2017

Love is just that way...

Just that way...it's worthy!
                                                            Tere Rodriguez-Nora

Friday, September 8, 2017

I smiled

   I smiled even in my sorrow 
   I smiled to keep me going
   I smiled because it gave me strength
   I smiled because it helped me hide my real feelings
   I smiled even if I was crying
   I smiled to keep on trying.
   I smiled for my kids
   I smiled for my parents and siblings
   I smiled at my friends
   I smiled when my heart was aching
   I smiled when I felt lonely
   I smiled when I felt hopeless
   I smiled when I felt insecure
   I smiled when I felt I was nothing.
   I smiled because it gave me strength to change
   I smiled because I was done
   I smiled because I knew I deserved better
   Now, I smile because I deserve it 
    I smile because I don't have to take it anymore
    I smile because life has given me a second chance
    I smile because I want to
Tere Rodriguez-Nora

Wednesday, September 6, 2017

A little poetry...a different view

What if the right for you has been 
by your side all the time
What if you only have to open your eyes 
and let your heart go
What if you stop making excuses and be willing to build a relationship
What if you make time and forget about schedules
What if you share yourself  
 little more 
What if you let go like there's no tomorrow
What if you're wasting your time instead of living the moment
What if you love and let someone love you

Take care, Tere

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

A little more of romantic quotes...

 Hello everyone!

 Here are some of the romantic quotes I have written.
 Hope you like them!
 Feel free to comment!

Friday, June 23, 2017

I miss you and I haven't even met you

I miss you and I haven't even met you. Those exact words he told me and I think they are the most romantic words I have ever heard.
Met him through online dating few months ago. He appeared in my search and I immediately felt attracted to him. Don't know why, but it was more than an attraction, it was like I knew him already in a very personal way. I loved his profile pic, look very handsome.

I contacted him and he replied. We messaged back and forth a lot. We started getting to know each other. It was amazing. We had so much in common!

We connected from the beginning. He made me laughed a lot. I love it. I made him laugh too. I really liked when I did it. We talked about each other's life: likes, dislikes, what we like to do for fun, etc.  I love that he was interested in me being a writer. He even asked about my published books. That was awesome. Being a writer and author is one of the parts of me that I treasure a lot and to someone be genuinely interested in it, makes that person special.

Then one day, we kinda lost contact. He wanted to be that way. He later told me he was starting to have feelings towards me so he decided to stop talking to me. Some weeks ago, we reconnected again. I was glad because I had missed him. He told me he couldn't stop thinking about me. I'm sure you know how I felt, right. We started messaging each other again, felt the connection again but...

Online dating can be amazing because it opens you to a whole new opportunity to meet people that maybe you won't meet in the conventional way. But online dating can be also a little a rough play too. And in this case, it was a little rough for me. He lives in California and I live in Florida.

Yeah, tough luck, right.

You will say, easy take a plane and go to meet each other. Turns out he can't and I'm a little short of money so. I feel that he doesn't want to meet more than he can't. I think he's afraid that we really click in person and then what will happen. You know, being each other so far. Every time we talked about how we wish we could meet and he says he can't, that's he's sorry, I feel sad. I don't know why. I just do.  For my part, I wish I could meet him and look into his eyes (Would love to do it!). Maybe you think I'm crazy and perhaps I am but I think that if I look into his eyes I will find the one.

I have to give up of what I feel. He's still on the site, looking for someone to be near him, of course. He met a lady on it and told me the other day he was going to meet her in person. It hit me. Ha-ha,yes, it did. You know that thing you feel on your inside...

Well, I can't do anything, I'm far away.
Still, I wish him luck and that he finds the one who will make him happy.

I'm the person who believes that things happens for a reason. He appeared in my search, we clicked, kind of grew something between us even with us being apart. I really wish if it can't happen now or in this life, we connect in another life because I know for sure we will be the best lovers of all times.

I miss you and I haven't even met you...

Take care,

What do you think I sould do?

Let me know if you have felt like this before. Share your experience with me. I'll be glad to hear it.

Friday, June 16, 2017

Quotes to live by 2

Hi everyone! I know I have been out for some time but here are some oher quotes I have written.
Hope you like them!

You can follow me on Instagram. Look for Terewriter.

Hope you all have a great weekend!

Take care, Tere