Wednesday, December 27, 2017
Tuesday, December 26, 2017
Let me share with you some of the experiences I lived this year: I started the year (February) with one of my sons having a legal problem (falsely accused). He was arrested and transferred to jail. Difficult times dealing with it, I visited him in jail and saw him in that orange uniform and with handcuffed. Thankfully he's out and next month is his last follow up hearing where his case will be closed and he will be without any records on his name.
Also as part of this year experiences, I started two new part-time jobs that I love, tutoring teacher and after-school Spanish teacher. Another of my experiences was hurricane Irma in Orlando, even though I had experienced hurricanes before; this one was kind of scary for me. Hurricane Maria hit Puerto Rico on Sept. 20th (my B-day) leaving my island devastated. This touched my heart in an unexpected way, seeing how all of the Puerto Ricans: family, friends, acquaintances, were suffering and not be able to do anything. This hurricane also touched my professional life, one of my books was going to be published in English but since my publishing company does not have power nor internet yet, that couldn't happen. By the beginning of December, I had my identity stolen and my banks' accounts cleaned (no money). Yayy, great for me! This experience was one of a kind and a hard one to deal with. Lastly, I had to spend Christmas day alone this year. Cheerful, right?
But, as people say, from every situation we learn something...
What I learned from the year 2017?
I learned that is hard sometimes being a parent but still is the most rewarding role I have as a person. I also learned that I have the most amazing friends, who supported me through all of my son's entire situation without judging anything, stood by my side every time I felt I was falling, and lend me a shoulder where I could cry on. This year also taught me that the good ones are way more. I saw it in some people of the justice system as well as in the people that got together and help in different ways the people of my beautiful island, Puerto Rico, after the hurricane. Words can’t express the gratitude I have for those that helped and the ones whio continue doing it. This year, I also learned that even though I had to spend the Christmas day by myself and didn't receive any present; it's not so bad. I got to see a lot of Christmas movies (which I love) and stayed in my pajamas and ate the whole day. The experience of starting the two part-time jobs this year taught me a side of me I didn't know I had, of being a teacher, and I love it. This year also brought me more writing. I've been posting a quote every day, writing more on this blog and on some children's' short stories as well as in an adult book I'm working. Furthermore, this year taught me that one can meet amazing people in unimaginable places or situations. Finally, this year has been the year of enjoying more my life as it is, trying to live the moment and to always see the positive things, even though I'm dealing with rough times.
I've been through a lot of different and unexpected experiences throughout this year, but I'm grateful for each and every one of them.
Next year (2018)...I will continue my journey. I will keep trying as long as I open my eyes every morning...nothing will stop me.
What did you learn from 2017? Share it wit me!!
Salud to a blessed new year!!
Take care, Tere
Thursday, December 14, 2017
Hey! Hello to all!
Here are some of the other romantic quotes I have written lately.
Hope you like them!
Take care, Tere
Saturday, December 9, 2017
A friend of mine asked me the other day why I didn’t write more about the experience I had with an abusive relationship. He thinks that letting others women know about it will benefit them because it might help those experiencing or have experienced the same thing.
That made me think why I really don’t do it. But, most of all, (and I don’t know why) made me think about that year after I left the abusive relationship.
For me, being part of an abusive relationship was hard but was even harder trying to live after that type of relationship was over.
Why you might think?
Well, living in an abusive relationship everyday kind of makes it part of your life. That’s all you know, you get used to it. I lived like that, but when it was over and I thought of what I went through and the time I have spent on it, a bunch of new feelings came out.
Iwas full with guilt, shame, disbelief of why I stayed, and, most of all, I carried for a long time, in myself, a lot of the insults that I’ve been told.
Guilt and shame... I felt guilty because I stayed in that relationship for so long. Why I did it was a question that I made myself every day. I felt ashamed of myself, again, for being in that relationship for so long and also because what kind of woman I was to let that happen to me. Guilt and shame hunted me every day; every time I saw my parents, my sons, my friends, and every time someone told me that they couldn’t believe my relationship was over because we were the perfect couple.
The insults, the verbal and emotional insults I received, well, those stayed with me for a long time. For months and months, I could hear him say it to me as it was the actual day that he did it. That I was fat, dumb, that I would never achieve anything in my life, that I wasn’t sexual competent, that no other man could possibly love me were part of the insults. These were accompanied by yelling, screaming, aggressive behavior, checking constantly were I was, and a constantly, absurd jealousy.
I lived with all those feelings for a long year and a half and I’ll be lying to you if I tell you that sporadically when I’m doing or experiencing something specifically (like an Award I received as an author, a date, a compliment I received, or just on an ordinary day) I heard those voices again.
I am a stronger woman now and those voices can’t hurt me anymore. They don’t hurt simply because I know now that I never should have felt guilty or shame. It was him who was wrong, not me. There is nothing wrong with me. They don’t hurt, also, because there are a lot of great women who, like me, have suffered what I have suffered and who are suffering every day. They, as well as me, aren’t weak women or a lesser type of women. They are just caught up in an abusive relationship. Most of all, that relationship does not define them or me at all. We are way more than a woman in an abusive relationship or one that has experienced one.
All these women, as well as myself, are great, smart, caring, funny, lovable, creative, incredible human beings capable of loving and respecting a man. But, most of all, we are amazing women that deserve love, respect, care, and happiness next to a man willing to give us that and more.
Take care, Tere
Wednesday, November 29, 2017
Tuesday, November 21, 2017
I wanted because it wasn’t good for me
anymore because, from them, I have learned a lesson
make me appreciate the good ones
made me believe in myself more
Sunday, November 19, 2017
Have you ever fell in love? I'm sure you have.
Why end it?
At this point in life, I may not know where, but I'll know with whom.
Take care, Tere
Tuesday, November 14, 2017
Monday, November 6, 2017
Abusive relationships happen every day, every hour, and to anyone. It doesn’t matter where you live, your social status, religion, or education. It’s out there and real. It’s more real than you know. You might have a friend who is involved in this type of relationship and you don't even now.
I was part of one myself. I was in an abusive relationship for way too much time. Yelling, insults (like fat, dumb, sexually incompetent, inept), always making me feel guilty, jealous about everyone (including my two sons), trying to make me feel less were part of my everyday life.
I was used to it. I was "happy". That's all I knew. I was so in love that I didn't notice that I was abused. I didn't care about what my sister, my friends, anyone told me; I always made an excuse excusing him. Nothing wrong was going on.
It had been 5 years since I decided I was done with my relationship. It sure took me a lot of time to be done with itbut is better late than never. Right?
I have invested too many years of my life in that relationship.
The day I was done with it, it was when I felt how heavy was the load I was carrying when I was no longer feeling that weight.
After I finished my relationship; I took a profound look at my interior self, at what I have lived and what was going to be my new life. Part of my introspection included trying to remember my life of the past twenty-something years. Weirdly, it seems that I have erased from my mind most of the things that happened to me in this relationship, both good and bad. I erased experiences when he abused me but I also erased experiences that were about Christmas, birthdays, family get together and events, among others.
I'm pretty sure I did it in a way to protect myself. I am a counselor, I know that our mind is powerful and can do strange things to help you cope with different situations.
The decisions I took after my separation were hard to understand for some people (including one of my sons) but they were necessary. One of them was that I needed to get as far away as I could from my ex. His love was an obsessive one so I needed to place a lot of distance between us. So, I did, I moved to Florida to start a new life.
I was immensely hurt. He tore my self-esteem apart. A lot of the insults he said to me stayed with me for a long, long time. I believed they were true. Little by little I began to heal and I began to be secure about myself and of the great woman I am.
If you have had the same experience as mine; belief in yourself, believe in second chances, and believe that you are capable to have a magnificent relationship with someone who will love and respect you.
Take care, Tere
Sunday, November 5, 2017
Hi! Are you a romantic?
Here are some of my others romantic quotes I have written.
Hope you enjoy them!
Thursday, October 26, 2017
As you all might know, I’m a children’s books author. Writing is my passion, I love doing it. I first started writing when I was in high school then stopped for a while and resumed it sometime later in the year 2000. When I started again to write I wanted to do a story about my dad’s hometown but when I sat down to write, a children’s short story was what I wrote. That short story became my first published book. I have published three children’s books and some other short stories on textbooks.
These are my babies, my published books: Kikiwi y los desperdicios en el fondo del mar, En busca de la paz, and Las estrellas de los Reyes Magos. Below you’ll find a short synopsis of each book.
Kikiwi y los desperdicios en el fondo del mar is about a happy little fish in the Caribbean Sea, loves to swim through the dense algae and play around the colorful corals in the company of his marine friends. Kikiwi finds it hard to tolerate the junk that pollutes the sea so together with his friends and the help of some children, Kikiwi finds a way to maintain the beach and keep the sea clean. With lovable characters and beautiful illustrations, this underwater story demonstrates the importance of caring for the environment.
En busca de la paz is about a boy named Andre, a very curious little boy, that is in search of an answer to the question What is peace? What is it made of? What does it feel like? The answers come to him in a dream in which his grandfather appears and teaches him that peace is wonderful and can be experienced when feeling secure, safe, and protected.
Las estrellas de los Reyes Magos is a beautiful Christmas story about the Latino, traditional celebration of the Three Kings day and how a boy and his grandpa celebrate it...It was a beautiful night. The sky was clear and full of stars. Benjamin could distinguish three in particular that twinkled more than the others. With the help of his grandfather, Benjamin discovers the magical story behind these stars and the tradition of the Day of the Three Kings. This title was selected as an award-winning book in the 18th Annual International Latino Book Awards (2016) in the category "Best Latino Focused Children’s Picture Book – Spanish".
My books are in Spanish but I’m sure you know someone who knows the language and would love to read them. The books can be found on Amazon, my Facebook author page https://m.facebook.com/tererodrigueznoraauthor/?tsid=0.5596635260586698&source=typeahead or emailing me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Take care, Tere
Saturday, October 14, 2017
Enjoy a little more of the romantic quotes I have written...
Hope you liked them!
Let me know what you think...
Take care, Tere
Saturday, October 7, 2017
Thank you all for helping my fellow brothers and sisters in my beautiful island...
Thank you for that dollar you donate, for all the provisions you dropped at the relief event, for that package of water you bought for them, for every time you share a post, for all those prayers you said, for reaching out to me asking if my family and loved ones were well.
I firmly believe that the good ones are more than the bad ones and watching in the news and in social media, all this response towards Puerto Rico has confirmed it.
Once again, thank you! ¡Gracias! Many blessings!! ❤️
Take care, Tere
|Sunset in Puerto Rico|
Sunday, September 17, 2017
My birthday is this week. I'm turning 48 years old, yes, only two more and I'm 50.
Scared? Nah! I'm just starting to live.
But being near 50 has made me introspected about my life.
The following is what I concluded about what I have learned and gained in my 48 years of living:
- Difficult times will come but they don't last a lifetime
- Stay positive, even when what you are going through is hard as hell.
- Don't regret your mistakes because from all of them you have learned something
- Know that with every sunrise comes a brand new day.
- Treat yourself as a priority.
- Don't be the spare of anyone, be their priority. They are the ones who lose if they don't treat you as one.
- Show love, gratitude
- Life is not easy. It's like a roller coaster, but it's the kind that you don't want to stop riding.
- Show the ones that you love that you care, not only with words but especially with actions.
- Love your children with all your heart but know that, eventually, they will have to live their life by themselves and that you shouldn't try to live their lives through yours. They need to fail, they need to cry, and they need to have troubles in order to grow, to learn, and to be better persons.
- Be patient, it's a great virtue.
- Learn as much you can. It doesn't matter if you do it by going to schools, colleges, or by yourself as long as you do it.
- Share your life with your loved ones and tell and demonstrate your love for them always.
- Don't spend too much time worrying, that time will never come back.
- Wear a smile every day.
- Honesty takes you a long way.
- Know that life is fragile; try to live it as better as you can.
- Embrace your passion. Passion is what's going to make your life roll.
- Don't mind what others think about you, it's your life, not theirs.
- Be humble
- Cherish your friends. They are the family that you choose. I sure have good ones and I love and am grateful for them every day.
- Talk and visit your parents often, they need you as much as you needed them.
- Believe that you are beautiful in every stage of your life.
- Work and be proud of what you do but don't forget to work for a living and not living for work.
- Go out, have fun
- Be caring and warm to others
- Protect the environment. This magnificent place called Earth is the only home we have.
- Listen to music and dance anytime and in any place, you feel like it.
- Know that you will fall and have failures but also that you will raise up again and what have you learned from it will make you stronger.
- Don't let anyone mistreat you, offend you with words or emotionally, no one that does this to you deserve your love and respect
- Fall in love again even if you have been hurt before.
- Laugh every day, do it hard and loud.
- Know that the love for you is the greatest kind of love. Love yourself with all your strengths but especially with all your weaknesses. You can't love anyone if you don't love yourself first. Embrace yourself!
- Be grateful for a sunny or a rainy day, for the singing of the birds, because someone opened a door for you, for the bad and the good days, for a day at the beach, for a tasty piece of cake, because things are not going as you expected, for reading a good book or writing a great story, for a tight hug, for tears of sadness, for times with friends and family, time with your love, for the laughter of your kids, for a sensual kiss, because someone holds your hand...
- Be grateful every day because you are alive!
Take care, Tere
Thursday, September 14, 2017
Tuesday, September 12, 2017
Hope you have enjoyed them. Let me know what you think!!
Take care, Tere